Hello, I’m Stacey O, a Sex and Relationship Coach and host of the global independent podcast ‘Finger Food’.

My unique approach to coaching is grounded in talk therapy and somatics, with an emphasis on the crucial link between the mind and body.

I believe anyone can develop healthier communication skills and enhance intimacy with the right tools, practice, and patience!

I’ve made it my life's work to normalise vulnerability in these areas and help humans unlock more pleasure and connection within themselves and their intimate relationships.

I feel deeply passionate about this work because it has changed my life in so many ways. 

• This work has helped me reshape my understanding of sex and relating for the better.
  
• It has helped me understand my needs, wants, boundaries, desires and how to communicate them confidently.
  
• It has helped me experience a deeper level of connection to myself and my intimate partners.
  
• It has helped me feel safe enough in my own body to be able to experience levels of orgasmic pleasure I didn't think were possible.
  
• But most of all, it's helped me feel normal and understand there is nothing wrong with me.

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My Story

For the majority of my sexual life, I felt completely disconnected to my body and my pleasure.

Growing up in Auckland, New Zealand, I went to a conservitive  all girls high school. I remember conversations around self pleasure being completely taboo amongst my friends at school and the sex education provided being rather lacklustre and questionable.

Any mention of intimacy around my parents was met with awkwardness and fear (bless them). It was not something we talked about in my Catholic family.

It didn’t really feel safe to talk openly about sex with anyone so I ended up bottling up all of my insecurities. I felt deep shame and embarrassment around sex and felt like I had no one to talk to.

After experiencing a number of intoxicated, non-consensual encounters, I thought sex was incredibly painful and disappointing, both physically and emotionally. On the outside, I projected a very confident and wild young woman, but on the inside I felt very little self-worth.  I thought “maybe I’m just not a sexual person” and “sex just sucks”.

At the age of 21 (still never having experienced the mythical orgasm), I swiftly made a beeline for London where I co-founded Meringue Girls, an innovative baking brand. The business was an overnight success and received private orders from the likes of Dior, Chanel and Stella McCartney. During this time I published two cookbooks and was food styling for Italian Vogue.

Despite the roller coaster success of the business and a whirlwind marriage (at just 22 years old), the work-hard, play-hard lifestyle started to take its toll on my wellbeing and marriage.

I suddenly started experiencing severe anxiety, debilitating exhaustion, and my hormonal health was all out of whack - acne all over my neck, back and chest, heavy painful periods, and unpredictable highs and lows.

I wasn’t having sex with myself or my husband, I was depressed, my marriage started to collapse, I struggled to find the capacity for anything, I didn’t feel comfortable in my skin and I found myself becoming resentful of my business and friends.

I finally reached a point where enough was enough and decided to get some help from healers, therapists and coaches.

I ended up selling my business, traveling the world, ending my marriage and dedicating my life to healing myself. I dived deeply into studying practices such as yoga, mindfulness, embodiment and integrative sexuality.

I have felt more orgasmic pleasure in my body in the last few years than I ever thought possible. I believe our capacity to feel as human beings is truly infinite. There is so much room for unlearning and reconnecting to our bodies wisdom and pleasure and that makes me so bloody excited.

I call myself a life-long student as I will be forever unlearning and discovering new parts of myself. I am now studying Integrated Sexuality full-time, mentoring women around the world 1:1, and educating through workshops, talks and podcasts.

If you resonate with my story and you’d like to work with me, find out how HERE.

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Credentials: 

• VITA Sex, Love & Relationship  Coaching Certification at The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality with Layla Martin (Trauma Informed)
• 200hr Yoga Teacher Training at Akanda Yoga, Rishikesh, India
  
• Level 1&2 International School of Temple Arts Graduate, Australia & NZ
• Dancing Eros Graduate, NZ
  
• 2 year Diploma in Culinary Arts at Auckland University of Technology
  
• Co-founder / part-owner of multiple successful businesses/projects with a collective social following of 200,000 (Stacey O, Meringue Girls, Finger Food, The Village)
• Over 6 years of experience healing my own sexual and hormonal health
• Facilitated hundreds of women 1:1, in group coaching and in workshop settings
• Host of the Finger Food Podcast
  
• Featured on multiple podcasts and interviews around burnout, women’s sexuality and empowerment including Juliet Allen's ‘Authentic Sex Podcast’ and Bumble's What ‘We Call Love Podcast’